By Carolyn Abell,
A few weeks ago, my pastor commented in his Sunday morning sermon, how special it is to receive a hand-written, personal letter from a friend or family member. I smiled when he said that, because it was a perfect reflection of my own feelings.
When I collect my mail from the box each day, the first thing I do is sort through it. About half of it fits into that category we call “junk mail” and goes directly into what administrative offices call the “circular file, also known as trash bin. Such things as political fund-raiser letters, solicitations from charities that don’t pass my rather high bar of efficiency rating, and the 37th notice from a roofing company that wants me to apply for a FEMA-financed roof all go into the discard pile.
Then there are the bills. I would love to throw them away, too, but my better judgment prevails, and I place them on that shelf for “action required.” Miscellaneous other envelopes require that I open them and scan the contents—things like bank statements, updates from my health insurance company and a reminder that Miss Kitty needs her rabies shot.
But occasionally, nestled among the junk mail, business letters, and advertisements, there is a hand-addressed envelope. This always grabs my attention, especially if there is a return address indicating it is from a friend or family member. Sometimes, in anticipation of the sheer pleasure of reading a personal note or letter, I will defer the moment by going to the kitchen to brew a mug of peach or raspberry tea, so that I can combine the pleasure of reading my special mail with sipping a steaming mug of fragrant tea.
Whatever it is probably won’t be very long. Lengthy, newsy letters have fallen casualty to a world where a long-distance phone call costs little or nothing. So if there is a lot to tell, we just pick up the phone and dial the person.
Of course e-mail has displaced much of our letter-writing, too. But even that mode of almost instantaneous communication has, in some cases, become simply a matter of forwarding some mass-produced inspirational story, many of which are fictional. They are the modern technological version of the old-fashioned chain letter that promises unexpected benefits and blessings for forwarding and sometimes threaten with unspeakably dire consequences for deleting. The latter is a signal to me to hit that delete button just to prove them wrong.
But those personal letters are something special. Besides the news they convey, they tell me more. They tell me that at some recent moment, the sender thought enough of me to sit down and pen a personal note. It may express some bit of news, or just a thought or insight that he or she wanted to share. But it makes me know that at that moment, I was the only one the writer was thinking about, and the words on that paper were meant just for me.
Sometimes we can express ourselves better in writing than in speaking. When carrying on a verbal conversation, we often struggle for the right word to describe a feeling or thought. But putting it down on paper gives us time to think of just the right way to convey a message.
Another thing that has almost become a lost art is penmanship. For those of us who grew up in the earlier part of the twentieth century, the ability to form letters and words in a distinctly consistent and legible hand was considered almost as essential as being able to put the words together using proper grammar and syntax. I remember in elementary school, having to write each letter of the alphabet repeatedly in a row—a line of A’s, followed by a line of B’s, C’s, and on down through the alphabet. “W” was probably the hardest for me. Some of my classmates could make beautiful W’s, with flourishes on both sides and the bottom points long and slightly curved. I never succeeded in that, so mine are just rounded on the bottom, with very little flourish—legible, but uninspired.
The pastor’s remark caused me to start writing more notes to people. Perhaps others will do the same. Who knows? Maybe we can start a trend of returning to this simple, but special expression of friendship.


